Mary Auer

Mary Argyle Auer, 86, of Columbia passed away December 24, 2009.  Born in Portland, OR, she lived most of her life in St. Louis, MO.  After the death of her beloved husband, Harry C. Auer, Jr. in 2005, she moved to Columbia, MO to be closer to family.  Mary was a passionate activist who believed in civil liberties.  She spoke out against injustice wherever she found it.  One of Mary’s favorite sayings was “Invest in People not wars”.  Mary will be missed by all who knew her as she was an intelligent, caring person.  Per Mary’s wishes she will be cremated and her ashes will be buried next to her husband at Jefferson Barracks National Cemetery in St. Louis at a date to be determined.  Survivors include her brother, Gregory Burns, her sister, Jeanne Smith, daughter Jeanne Perkins and husband Bob, daughter Mary Michael Endicott, and husband Jack, son Harry Thomas Auer and wife Linda, daughter Elaine Mac Donald and husband Larry, daughter Christine Meacham and husband Warren, nine grandchildren, six great grandchildren, four nieces and two nephews.  In lieu of flowers, donations can be made in Mary’s memory to your local food bank. 


  1. Jane Ellen Ashley on December 29, 2009 at 10:13 pm

    I had the privilege of meeting Mary only once, when we happened to volunteer together at the VAC, working on some mundane task important to their Christmas program. I so enjoyed our conversation about current issues, her passion and the wise advice that she gave me re: particular books to read. That occurred three years ago. She clearly left a lasting impression.
    I was sorry to learn of her death this evening. My sympathy to all of you.I believe that you know that she lived her life fully and well.

  2. kathy peterson on December 30, 2009 at 5:46 pm

    There is a little less sunshine in the world with Mary gone. I first worked with Mary 26 years ago at the St Louis Nuclear Weapons Freeze Campaign. I was an overwhelmed mother of 4 year old twins and Mary was there in so many ways to support me while I tried to balance working for peace and being with my kids. She was always willing to assert her belief that all living things deserved kind just treatment. She was courageous in her words and actions. So many times she and Harry inspired the good in others in the playful loving relationship that they had. Mary lived a full life rich in beauty and friends and simple in material wants. Her hope was that everyone would have what they needed in this world. She gave me great friendship and inspiration. My sympathy is with her large and lovely family.

  3. Peggy Malinee-Temkin on December 31, 2009 at 2:54 pm

    I am sorry to hear of the passing your Mary. I grew up across the street from your family on Lindscott and vividly remember your mother and the wonderful causes she so championed. She was passionate and dedicated to each. My thoughts and prayers are with your family.

  4. Toni Vafi on January 2, 2010 at 7:42 pm

    I had the privilege of knowing Mary well for the past ten years. Her intelligence and passion for justice were outstanding characteristics of this unusual woman. Mary was also very human and had a wonderful ability to laugh and and have fun. Some of my very best laugh jams were those that I shared with Mary.
    She will be missed.

  5. Kris Clawson on January 4, 2010 at 4:23 pm

    I was truly saddened to hear of Mary’s passing. She and Harry hold a special place in the hearts of myself and my children. As our neighbors, they were our St. Louis parentsgrandparents and we have wonderful memories of those times. My thoughts and prayers are with your family.

  6. mary Kriegshauser on January 5, 2010 at 7:41 am

    mary was a true patriot. i loved her intelligence, wisdom, and kindness. mary will be missed by many.

  7. Carole Patterson on January 7, 2010 at 1:28 pm

    Mary was so dear to my mother Lillian when she first moved to Boone Landing. And Mary was our favorite dinner partner when we had dinner with Mother at the Landing. We shared a mutual love for Opera and for politics on the Liberal side. We will miss her twinkle and smile.

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