Thomas Harless

Thomas D. Harless, 65, Kansas City, MO passed early Saturday morning, June 23, in the presence of loved ones. Visitation will be held 6-7:30 PM, Weds, June 27, 2007 at Heartland Cremation & Burial Society, 6113
Blue Ridge Blvd, Raytown, MO. Funeral services will be held 10 AM, Thursday at the funeral home. Military graveside services will be held 1:30 PM, Thurs, at Leavenworth National Cemetery. Tom was born on June 10, 1942 in Madison, WI. He was as strong in his passing as he was in his life and has left behind a legacy of individuals that he had helped. He selflessly offered himself to any person in need and did it with unconditional love and humor. His life was that of service not only to the numerous individuals that he touched, but also to his country. Tom was a US Navy Veteran seeing combat in Vietnam. He also served as a California Highway Patrolman ? Motorcycle Division. After retiring in 1980 from the Highway Patrol, he worked in community corrections and finally as an over the road truck driver where he enjoyed the freedom of the open road. Tom?s life was rich in friends and family. He was preceded in death by: father, Don Harless. Thomas is survived: wife of 20 years, Judy; children, Michael Harless, Macon, MO, Mandy McKiddy, Lisa Baker, and Heather Hands, Kansas City, MO, and Stacey Knepper, Carlsbad, CA. He had seven grandchildren Tommy Harless, Circe, Kawte, and Anais McKiddy, Zachary and Jacob Harper, Taylor Knepper, and Autumn Hands. Tom is also survived by: mother, Agnes Harless; sisters, Marlene Osse, Holly Holty, and Diane Harless, all of WI. He was dearly loved and will be missed by all who knew him. ?Someone lit a candle for you, don?t blow it out.?


  1. circe on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    hey papa wat r u doing up there in heven. i miss u so much. i hope it is fun up there.i cant stop thinking about u and i hope i dont becase i dont want to forget u and i hope u dont forget all of us.Papa that night u died in ur bed i went to sleep knowing tha u wont leave us.Also that night when i was sleeping i dreamed about u.u were a great grampa thant a grandaughter that i could ever have.We all miss u and love u.i hope u dont leave all of are sides.We will live in all of us and we all will live on in u.Papa magie misses u so much and loves u.My mom misses u and loves u so much.Papa please dont forget us all.We will miss u all forever.I love u and miss u so much.Ihope u can read this becase if u can we all miss u and love u so much.dont forget us.we wont forget u papa.WE all love u and miss u.i love u and miss u so much.ok papa ilove u and miss u goodnight papa i love u and miss u.goodnight

  2. Deloris on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    I am so sorry for your loss and I think of the family often and you are in my prayers.

  3. Agnes W. Harless on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    Tom was a wonderful Son and Brother to us all– and want to say THANKS SO MUCH to all the beautiful “memories” brought back to us, in reading the wonderful memorable statements, given by all of your relatives and friends. We do miss him so much, but know he is in a better Place than you and I are in.
    He and his Dad are missed a lot and our continued Prayers go up to God in THANKS for all of the Blessings HE haa GIVEN US AS A FAMILY..
    Also, THANKS to you, Tom, for doing the work and job the Lord had planned for you to do. You helped a lot of people and putting them on the “right path” in their problems, when necessary. THANKS FOR BEING SO KIND AND THOUGHTFUL OF ME, TOM. IT WILL ALWAYS BE REMEMBERED.

  4. circe on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    papa we miss u and love u we didn’t want it to end this way. I hope u r having a good time up there Papa we wanted u to know that we all miss u and loved u very much.When u died that night i know i wouldn’t see u any more.Papa dream about u every night.Papa we will try to vist ur grave.Papa u were a great grampa that we could have.I hope u r having fun up in heavin.Papa u will live on in us.Papa i hope u will wach over us.Papa we loved u so much and we miss u so much.Papa i hope u read this cause we miss u so much papa.We loved u papa we also miss u so much i hope u can read this caues we loved u so much and miss u so much.bye papa i will see u soon.i love u papa.bye love u

  5. Janet Fitzpatrick and Shelbie on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    Judy & Lisa, I am so sorry to hear about Tom. I will miss him very much. I hope you know that Tom was a very special man. He helped me a lot of time in meeting. I Love and Miss You guys my prayers and love is with you. If you would like to call me my phone number is 660-438-5907, I live at Warsaw, Missouri. Love Janet & Shelbie

  6. Clyde and Linda Horner on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    Our deeply Condolences. See poem my father wrote to me prior to passing:
    Miss me, but let me go
    When I come to the end of the road, and sun has set for me, I want no rites in a gloom filled room. Why cry for a soul set free.
    Miss me a little, but not too long, and not with your head bowed low. Remember the love that we once shared, miss me, but let me go.
    For this is a journey that we must take, and each must go alone. It’s all a part of the Master’s plan, a step on the road home.
    When you are lonely and sick of heart, go to the friends we know, and bury your sorrows in doing good deeds, miss me, but let me go.

    God Bless you!

  7. Jerry Underwood on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    To the Harless family ;
    Tom has been called home to his father our Lord and savior Jesus Christ. Tom is starting his new job at God’s right hand, and that is to help God watch over his flock, by day and by night. He will always be in our hearts and minds.

  8. Diane, on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    We, the offspring of Mike and Dolly Spencer, want to extend our most sincere sympathy to the Harless family. Don and Agie were close to us as we grew up. Agie still keeps in touch with us. Having lost our oldest brother, Jim, when he was 34, to bone cancer; our mother in 2004; our father in 2005, we can recall well the grief of losing someone you love. The family wanted to let you know that Tom’s family is in our thoughts and prayers. May God Bless. The Spencer Family, and Blanche Eschenbach

  9. Gail Harless - Johnston on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    To Tom’s family,
    Love, Peace and Blessings to you all. You are in our thoughts and prayers. May the Lord grant you peace in knowing that Tom is in His loving arms and comfort you in this time of loss.

    Gail Harless-Johnston & family

  10. Joy on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    Agnes, Marlene & family, Holly & family, Diane & family & Tom’s family,
    May God bless you all and help you find peace and comfort in your time of sorrow and loss.
    Such good times we all use to have at those old Harless Family Reunions! So many memories of good times to sustain us. How lucky we are to have the strength of family to provide us with those memories so we can remember the good times in life and hold on to them. Tom will truly be missed!
    Love and God’s Peace and Blessings to you all; May He wipe away all of your tears. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.
    Joy (Harless) Schopper & family

  11. KawTe on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    PaPa i love you and miss you very much although i was crying i still thought of you we all miss you i help i get to see you when i go to heaven and Maggie loves you you meant a lot to her you were her husband it won’t really be long before she dies then she’ll see you in heaven where you are a good place then you guys can see each other again i hope you’re having a good time in heaven i love you PaPa and i miss you very much i help you heard what Taylor said she said good things about you so did Zack and Jake if i knew you could write something and then say it then i would of but i didn’t know everyone cried even i did i hope you are having a great time and if i go to heaven i hope i have a great time to and might even get to see you and if i don’t find you then I’ll try and try harder to find you then when I’m all grown up i hope i can see all the people i did when i was a kid and even you and Maggie you looked great at your funeral you were all dressed up in your cop uniform i even cried that night that you had your funeral and i read the story about Jesus dying and i wrote in my bible about you eyeryone cried when you died even the day before the funeral some people cried all your friends miss you and your mom to i hope your having a great time in heaven when we were taking you to barry you they shot off guns and we said prays they were long but not probaly long as what I’m writing right now i sent this website to myself to remember you i love you papa i miss you to i want you right by my side and i always want you to be there although you’re in a better place we want you down here right by our sides and we’ll always want you to stay there i wish i could of spend more time with you but we had alot to do and i help you here the fireworks on forth of July and i hope we can stop by your grave sometimes although it’s so far away I’ll probaly stop by it alot when i grow up and I’ll stop by it before i die toyou were the best papa i could ever have i wish you were still alive but you’re not i love you with all my heart and I’ll always will no matter what i wish i could call and say hi in heaven you are very glad you have all these friends and family i love you with all my heart and I’ll always will no matter what love, KawTe Mckiddy

  12. MaryBeth Geivett on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    Judy, Stacy and family, I’m so sorry for your loss. Be gentle with each other and keep a kind heart.I miss and Love you all.

  13. circe mckiddy on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    we love u papa see u soon papa.

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  15. William D. Townsend on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    The best memorial to Tom would be the love he had for “others” and the love of those “others” he had to leave. He will be waiting to help again.

  16. Michele Sartin on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    That was the most beautiful service I’ve ever attended! It was very fitting for such a great man!

  17. Alice on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    Tom, you are now riding your Harley with the spirit in the sky. God bless.

  18. Mike, Jill, Cody and Branden Hawkins on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    Sorry to learn of Tom’s passing. Our thoughts are with you.

  19. Kathy Kueffer on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    Tom will be missed, but his words of wisdom will live on forever.

  20. Jane Luedtke (Tollefson) on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    So so Sorry to hear of your loss. I have three brothers and two of them were in Vietnam. I would be stunned if one of them were to die so soon. And Agnes… this must be so hard for you to have to bury your son. God be with you all!!!

  21. Marsha Gabehart on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    I was so sorry to learn of Tom’s passing. I know he and my Tom are together with God. May God bless you.

  22. Doug Hawkins and Family on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

  23. Rob (Robbie) Rowley on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    To a wonderful cousin.I will remember many good times with you growing up, our card games, and driving around the bases in Southern Cal.My love and best wishe to your family.

  24. Lee Ann Eltomi on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    You touched so many lives, including mine. You will always be remembered.

  25. Dan Bathe on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    It was twenty tears ago you came into my life and in that, you have givin me more to live by than anyone else on earth. for that i am so greatful. you are the true definition of a real man. thankyou for never giving up on me when i wanted to.

  26. Dr. Lana Pennell on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    Thank you for sharing Tom with all of us. He was a good man who gave his all. I will always remember him. Love, Lana

  27. Lynne (Simonson) Navis on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    My prayers are with all of you.

  28. Dave Gilroy on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    I remember the last time I saw you, I was just a very young boy. Yet the memory of you will always be with me. Your kindness, your humor, those are the things I will keep with me. God Bless

  29. Charlotte Caviness on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    Tom…You will truley be missed. Your words of wisdom and courage will always be remebered. The warm hugs I will truley miss. When down and out you knew how to say the right things to cheer a person up. You are at peace now with your maker. I will never blow my candle out!! Till we meet again at the big meeting keep riding. I will miss you!!! Love Charlotte (AA friend)

  30. Diane, Liz and Chris on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    I know you are with God and in the best place there could ever be, and that is comforting to me, because I really miss you!! It’s like the last thing you said to me, “I love you. See you in awhile.” Give everyone hugs for me up there! Love you!

  31. Diane on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    I am so proud and grateful to have you as my ?favorite? one and only brother! You will always be remembered and so will all you have given and done unselfishly for many others. I love your excellent sense of humor, cool & rather unique expressions which brought lots of joy and laughter! I?m so grateful just for you and your amazing spirit, let alone all your talents, like endless kindness, great story telling, talking like time is standing still, genuinely caring, and never rushed. Sharing coffee including wherever and whatever food was around, breakfast, donuts, pie, Wisconsin cheese & sausage or cold pizza with me in mom?s kitchen at 10 in the morning. No one is ever a stranger to you because you make friends with everyone. I think all the waitresses in Kansas City know you!Thanks for being so loving and restoring my faith in the goodness of life and belief that some men are okay. I love and respect your loyal patriotism, riding on your Harley with you, and for taking the freedom and courage to speak the truth while living your life one day at a time with strength, faith, dignity, liberty, peace, and unconditional love for all. You truly took a stand for all the things that God wants us to be and do with our blessing of life and our lit candle. When you left on your Harley, you left so much love and strength with us. Thank you! Remember Peach Pie? Your memory makes people smile not just with their face, but in their hearts, because a big heart like yours easily touches so many other hearts! Thank you for the honor of loving you!

  32. Maria on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    Thank you for always listening
    to me!And for the unforgetable
    crazy! trip to California , 7 2 and sunny .Until we meet again my
    freind .Maggie and Tom ,lOVE AND
    KISSES .Maria

  33. Don and Beverly Amacher on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    You are now with our Lord and Savior.

  34. Beverly on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    God’s blessing to your family.

  35. Penny Getting on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    I will miss so much, you were the dad I never had, we will met again until then keep riding.
    love always

  36. Tamarah K Williams on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    So sorry for your loss. Your all in our prayers.

  37. randy kueffer on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    your words of advice will be missed and remembered. bye my friend

  38. Helen (Mickey) Miller on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    So sorry to hear of the loss of another great person. our hearts and prayers go out to all of you
    love Mickey & Kenny
    the memorial video is awsome.

  39. Liz McAllister on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    Your good work will continue….
    “I spent a great deal of time passing on what I learned to others who want and need it badly. I do it for four reasons:
    1. Sense of duty.
    2. It is a pleasure
    3. Because in so doing I am paying my debt to the man who took time to pass it on to me.
    4. Because every time I do it I take out a little more insurance for myself against a possible slip.?

  40. Tanya Goodman on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    Thank you Tom for all the times you knew, without me saying a word, how I felt or that I wasa hurting. Thank you for your words of comfort even when you didnt know you were doing it. Thank you for caring. I will miss you and honor your memory. Your friend in AA Tanya

  41. Irish mike on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    We will ride again!!!! You have given me the tools the love and respect all that I ever needed.For that I will always be grateful,now I will give it back. Thank You Tom

  42. Holly on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    To the best brother a sister and her family could ever have. We look forward to seeing you in heaven! Love,
    Holly, Dave, Lindsey and Natalie

  43. Dan Getting on January 1, 1900 at 12:00 am

    we will miss you, but your memory will live on in all of us.

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