Carmel Mills

Carmel Marie Mills, 92, Leawood, Kansas, died peacefully at the Kansas City Hospice House on Saturday, June 15, 2013. She was born December 4, 1920 in Vallejo, California, to Archangelo and Theresa (Magistrini) Bellini.  Her father was a career officer in the Navy permanently stationed at Mare Island Navel Base at Vallejo.  Following her 1938 graduation from Vallejo High School she went to work as a staff secretary to Admiral H.E. Kimmel.  She was assigned to him at the Pearl Harbor Naval Base on December 7, 1941 during the attack on Pearl Harbor.  After the onset of World War II she was transferred home to Mare Island for the duration of the war.  In the last days of the war she met Marine Lt. Col. Max Milo Mills who was stationed at the base while his ship was being repaired after service in the South Pacific.  They were married on December 14, 1945 at the Navy Chapel on Mare Island.  She returned with him to his hometown of Marshalltown, Iowa, where he opened a law practice, and they raised their family.  In 1969 Mr. Mills accepted a position as a Regional Director of Heath Education and Welfare in Kansas City and they moved to Leawood.  Mr. Mills preceded in her death in 1998 after over 50 years of marriage.  Fondly called Coco by her six grandchildren she presided over countless family occasions, all involving wonderful dinner that she prepared.  No one laughed better or more contagiously than Coco.  She was a world traveler and explained that when she met God and He asked her, “Carmel, did you see the beautiful world that I made for you?”, she could tell Him “I loved it all.”

She was preceded in death by: husband; parents; sister, Norma; and son Jeffery L. Mills.  She is survived by: daughters, Sally Loessin and Carol Sturm (Steve), both of Leawood; grandchildren, Nicole, Michael and Joseph Loessin, Megan and Jeffery Sturm and Margarite Mills; and great-grandchildren Kyle and Olivia Loessin.

Her adoring and vigilant Corgi “Tootie Cecchettini” died the day before her beloved Coco.

Private family service are scheduled. Ti vogliamo bene, Coco.

(arr. Heartland Cremation & Burial Society, Overland Park, KS)


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  1. Williams family on June 18, 2013 at 8:34 am

    My condolences to the Mills family. May God be with you and may loving memories fill your heart with peace and joy. Turning to God in prayer can be a source of true comfort. Please be assured of God’s love (1 Peter 5:7).

  2. Jack Harris and Jerry Hughes on June 18, 2013 at 10:35 am

    Our prayers are with you all. Sally, lets keep in touch please.

  3. Michael Lavalle Family on June 18, 2013 at 12:42 pm

    Mills Family,
    Condolences from us all we will miss Carmel very much. We have many happy memories of times together with Carmel, Max and all of you. We will endeavor to have many more.
    Michael and the girls.

  4. Elin McGlothlin on June 18, 2013 at 7:45 pm

    I send my deepest condolence’s to you and your family. I am so sorry for your loss.
    I too remember your mothers infectious laugh and her great cooking.
    My thoughts are with you at this time Carol and Sally. Love, Your cousin, Elin

  5. Dede Jacobusse on June 18, 2013 at 8:22 pm

    I think of Aunt Carmel every time I make pasta sauce, as she gave me her famous recipe. Carmel, Milo and the Mills family were fantastic to me while Jake was in Vietnam. Carmel and Mariel filled the room with laughter over a Christmas gift given to them by Jake. I will send you several photo’s. Our thoughts are with your family. Semper Fi !. Our home is always open to you. Love, Dede and Jake

  6. Janey Lynn Swartz on June 19, 2013 at 8:03 am

    I have wonderfully happy memories of Carmel. Yes, her laughter was delightful and she was always so very kind and gracious to everyone who entered her home. Of course her cooking was outstanding! I loved our Christmases with her …her fun spirit filled the air and added to the joy of those occasions. I remember with fondness watching her and her sweet beloved Corgis and the devotion they had to each other. I am fortunate to have known her and their wonderful children.

  7. Greg Twedt on June 23, 2013 at 3:17 pm

    Zoraida and I were so saddened to learn of of the death of Carmel. I have innumerable happy memories of Carmel and the entire Marshalltown Mills clan. You were always such a very big part of my childhood. It was a terribly sad day for me when I was told that the Mills family was moving to K.C. —- Zoraida did not have many opportunities to know and share with Carmel, but I can tell you that she values very highly those few times she was able to be with her. Zoraida loved that wonderful laughter and Carmel’s kind conversations. I had told Zoraida earlier this year that Carmel was planning on attending the spring meeting this year. We both do so wish that that could have happened. —— Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.

  8. Theresa Jean Ameral on July 1, 2013 at 1:11 pm

    Thankful we all have comfort & Hope of seeing family again. I never got to meet my Great Aunt, always heard wonderful stories about her. I’m Carmel’s sister(Norma Bellini) granddaughter, Theresa Jean. The family line goes on since I have two daughters also. It will be wonderful someday to have a family reunion w all-in the Resurrection. Rev. 21:3,4 best wishes, Theresa

  9. Ellen Robinson on July 4, 2017 at 1:46 am

    Dear Carol and Sally,
    Please accept my very, very late, but heartfelt condolences for the death of your mother, who was a very witty, kind woman. We were acquaintances, through your brother. We would go years without communicating, but we always had good talks!
    I met you both in the early Seventies, but doubt my name is familiar to you. I was a very good friend of Jeff’s. The last time I spoke with her we had a nice chat about him. Jeff used to call my mother, too, until her death. I was told they’d laugh for hours!)
    Please, it’s not an imposition, I would love for you both to contact me. I have some wonderful stories about your brother from a very long time ago, ones I doubt you’ve heard and might be interested in. I’m grateful for social media because I was able to find you, but saddened that it bore such sad news about your mom.
    Most Sincerely,
    “Sister” Ellen

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