Mary Margaret Mylar Arends

Mary Margaret Mylar Arends (November 8, 1944 – September 28, 2021). Mary was born on November 8, 1944, to Olive Barrows Mylar and James Hoyt Mylar of Independence, Mo. This beautiful, shy girl grew up quickly after her father’s death and helped to raise Wilma, her little sister, while their mother taught elementary school and took care of the family farm, and Nancy, their sister, worked in St. Louis. Mary graduated from Blue Springs High School in 1962 and began a decades-long career with Southwestern Bell. Mary was a talented cook and seamstress who donated her time, talent and treasure to many charitable causes, including Kansas City’s Project Warmth, the Community Blood Center and Operation Breakthrough.

Mary is preceded in death by her grandchildren, Brieanna and Devan Williams, and her sister, Wilma Debus. She is survived by her sister, Nancy Evansher, children, Susanna Guzman (husband Mark Guzman), and Sara Leonard (husband Tony Leonard), and her grandchildren Kendra Werst, Javier Guzman, Alex Guzman, Hayden Leonard, Stella Leonard, and Liam Leonard.

Mary and her family are grateful for any memorial contributions that may be made to Operation Breakthrough.


  1. Charlotte Woolard on October 5, 2021 at 10:09 am

    So sorry to hear of your mom’s passing. Mary and I found a deep friendship that will always be remembered.

  2. Scott Christensen on October 5, 2021 at 11:00 am

    I knew Mary through Southwestern Bell. I remember her as always being kind and courteous to work with, and good at her job. We made connections later on social media, where I enjoyed her posts and perspectives. Condolences to her family on her passing. May she Rest In Peace.

  3. Sandra Klemp (Sandy) on October 5, 2021 at 11:39 am

    I worked with Mary off and on through the years. As most jobs in person or on the phone. Since then I have enjoyed our communication on Facebook. Always a kind and funny lady. She will be missed by me and many others. Rest In Peace. My love & sympathy to family and friends.

  4. Janet Meranda on October 5, 2021 at 2:11 pm

    A lovely woman, a great cousin, and an excellent friend. Such a loss for us all!

  5. Jane Catt Thompson on October 5, 2021 at 2:57 pm

    I only recently met Mary through Facebook. She was a cousin to my grandmother Pauline Mylar Catt. There were so many family resemblances and I really enjoyed getting to know her and I will miss her posts. She loved her family very much. My thoughts are with you all!

  6. Patricia K Rhodes on October 5, 2021 at 4:33 pm

    I worked with Mary at Southwestern Bell. Have been on FB with her for quite sometime. We had many like friends thru our work. Will miss her.
    Sorry to the family. I know she loved all of you very much.
    My love and prayers to all of you.
    Mary rest in peace

  7. Judy Cox Wart on October 5, 2021 at 8:38 pm

    Mary and I went to Pitcher Elementary School at the same time. I was one year ahead of her. Mrs Mylar was my fifth grade teacher and the teacher for my younger brother and sister. We connected again on Facebook. My prayers for your family!

  8. Elizabeth Owens on October 6, 2021 at 10:51 am

    I met Aunt Mary for the first time in March 2021 when I took my mom Flora “Carolyn” Hembrough to have lunch with her in St. Louis. Mom has moved to Texas and I am in Tennessee but enjoyed seeing my grandmother Josephine’s sister so much. Was also a FB friend.

  9. Sharon Smith Kelley on November 8, 2021 at 8:25 am

    I attended Pitcher Elementary School where Mary was a year behind me in classes, and her mother was a teacher. My mother was the school dietician. Many times, Mary rode with my family wherever we attended church services, and we played together. It’s true that Mary was a very shy girl, but I enjoyed her curiosity, and she always added to observations about history and politics, which we both enjoyed on the same level. We often remarked to each other on some of our mutual acquaintences who had lost there way in conspiracy theories or false narratives….how dangerous false debate is to our freedoms, and our sorrows in knowing that they had the same opportunities as we had to learn research and historical values, but they messed up. I will so miss her and our conversations both on Facebook and private messages. I’m encouraged that we will meet again. Love you, Mary…!

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