Cary Lane Calhoon
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Cary Lane Calhoon, 68, of Warsaw, MO passed away July 23, 2025. Memorial services will be held at 11am, Friday, August 1, 2025, at Heartland Cremation & Burial Society, 6113 Blue Ridge Blvd. Raytown, MO. Visitation will be held prior to the service from 10-11:00.
Cary was born September 4th, 1956, in Independence, MO to Charles Calhoon and Nancy Keen. Cary Calhoon was one of a kind. Perfectly imperfect yet loved by all. He lived a life full of grit, heart, and laughter. Born with a love for the outdoors and a natural talent for working with his hands, he spent his early years playing baseball, hunting alongside his father, and developing a lifelong passion for carpentry, skills and values he would later pass on to his own son.
He graduated from Van Horn High school in 1974. Cary followed in his father’s footsteps and became a master carpenter. He worked tirelessly until the day came when he could no longer get his boots on, a moment that said more about his dedication than any words ever could.
When he wasn’t working, Cary could be found bird hunting, golfing, fishing or watching a game at the local bar. Always with a cold beer in one hand and a cigarette in the other. Cary truly found his peace in the woods at Truman Lake. Whether he is splitting logs, burning chicken, taking the boat out or paddling around the put-in, that’s where he was the most at home. Just him and his bird dogs, lost in the quiet comfort of the woods. He was a lover, a fighter, a father, a brother, a friend, a son, a hopeless romantic, an outdoorsman and son of God. The man, the myth, the legend. He leaves behind a legacy of hard work, big laughs, and even bigger love. Cary will be deeply missed by all who knew and loved him.
Cary was preceded in death by his mother, Nancy Keen; father, Charles Calhoon; wife, LeDean Calhoon; mother-in-law, Sandy Bowen; and brother-in-law, Ted Bowen.
Cary is survived by his wife, Debbie Rousseau-Calhoon; children, Kylie (Aaron) Scully, Cody (Miki) Calhoon, Candace (Jamie) Davis, Charly (fiancé- James Grund) Calhoon; stepchildren, Holli Brown, Brett Rousseau and Tanner Rousseau; 13 grandchildren; stepmother, Betty Calhoon; sister-in-law, Karen (Pat) Carter; siblings, Cathy (Rick) Wesner, Todd (Tracy) Calhoon, Kim (Brian) Smith; step siblings, Karla Keeney Lukey, Teresa Keeney Salmon, Douglas Keeney, Debbie Keeney Barringer and several nieces and nephews and numerous friends that were his family.
My condolences to the family. I’m sorry for your loss.
I could probably write a book about Cary Calhoon. He was kind, gentle, soft spoken and had a big heart. When he smiled everyone smiled, you couldn’t help it. Never heard him say anything bad about anyone even though sometimes you knew he was thinking about it. He loved his family above all else. Always talked about how proud he was of his kids.
I’ll stop before this turns into a book. I’ll just say it is a honor and a blessing to have been his friend. We will miss you Calhoon❤️
No words can express, will miss you big brother, until we get to see each other again. Love you! Prayers for the whole family during this time! Love you all!
Miss you so much big brother! I have so many wonderful memories of growing up with you, especially playing outdoors, exploring in the woods, and riding horses all the time! You’ll be in my heart forever!! Praying for peace and comfort for Cary’s kids, their spouses, his Grandkids, our Mom (that raised him since he was 4) and all of our family. It brings me comfort knowing you’re with our heavenly father forever!
Loved you so much, you were such a special brother! Always calm, kind, &
helpful! Our family would not have been the same, without you! Hope you knew how loved you were!!
Cary was a second father to me.
He taught me everything I know about cabinetry and trim carpentry.
The legacy of him is difficult to put into words.
When I close my eyes I can see the little smirk he’d give when it was quittin time on the job. He is greatly loved and my sympathy goes out to his family and all who loved him as well as I.
Cary had a voice—one of those deep, resonant voices that stayed with you. Think Sean Connery or Sam Elliott. I always enjoyed chatting with him over a drink at the Pub. He had a signature smirk, especially when talking about things he believed he knew better—and he never hesitated to speak his mind.
I appreciated that about him.
While I wouldn’t say I knew him intimately, I could tell he had a genuine heart. He was real, and that meant something. I’m deeply sorry to hear that he’s passed.
Safe travels to the other side, my friend. I’ll see you again someday.
What a beautiful obituary. Although we did not know Cary well, your tribute to him has provided a beautiful statement of his life.
Diann and I extend our sincerest and deepest condolences to you, Debbie, and the rest of your family.
May God‘s grace be upon you during these times.
Ray and Diann
Prayers from the Davis families.
When he left here he saw the face of God and was made whole, healed of all earthly ails. He entered his rest and is at peace. We pray you find peace in that he is with his Heavenly Father.
what a asshole!!!!!!!!