Scott Ellis Hawf

Scott Ellis Hawf, 29, passed away on Tuesday, February 28, 2017.

A private service will be held on Sunday, March 5, 2017.

Scott was born on November 9, 1987 to Debbie and Chris Hawf. He was kind, generous, and had a wonderful sense of humor. Scott was an avid tennis player, as well as instuctor, who often preferred making a new friend on the court to winning the match. His life was dramatically altered at age 14 when he was diagnosed with Leukemia. He survived that long and strenuous battle and went on to graduate from the University of Missouri in 2010 and 2015, earning both Bachelor and Masters degrees in Social Work. Scott loved helping others, particularly the older adults he met through many hours of volunteer service at M.U.’s Adult Day Connection.

Scott is survived by his parents, his older brother, Adam and his family, his maternal grandparents, Rex and Carol Notbohm, and many aunts, uncles, cousins, and close friends.

In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to the Make-A-Wish Foundation at mo.wish.org or 13523 Barrett Parkway Dr. Suite 241, Ballwin, MO 63021.

Visits: 14

Condolences

  1. Phyllis Ketring on March 3, 2017 at 4:26 pm

    Debbie, thanks for the call today. One of the greatest people I have ever known is now at rest. He will always be with us. You were blessed to have him and I was blessed you shared him. Blessings, Phyllis



  2. Carol A. Snively, MSW Program Director on March 3, 2017 at 6:20 pm

    The Mizzou School of Social Work sends their heartfelt condolences to Scott’s family. We are all so sad to learn of your loss. Please let us know about any funeral arrangements.



  3. Carolyn Anderson on March 3, 2017 at 8:32 pm

    I will always miss your hugs, Scott and the way you cared about people. Thanks for stepping up as a mentor for my grandson and always being there. You said once that you didn’t understand why I always believed in you. It was easy. Will see you again one day my friend. Rest for now.



  4. Tom Walsh on March 4, 2017 at 7:54 am

    I am honored to have had a chance to get to know Scott. He reminded me of a big Teddy Bear. I always enjoyed our conversations. He was a kind hearted and gentle person. He will be greatly missed



  5. Robin and Stephen Smith on March 4, 2017 at 8:03 am

    I had the pleasure of getting to know Scott through our job. We worked together while he was in college. He always had a smile and I enjoyed seeing him and talking to him when we could. After graduation, he became a counselor at my son’s school. Scott was so patient and supportive of Stephen. He really listened and cared about him. I will always appreciate how him helped my son. We are so sorry for your loss. I hope that your family will be able to find some peace and comfort.



  6. Cande Iveson on March 4, 2017 at 8:27 am

    Scott was a student of mine in the MSW program. I also ran into him at Schnucks with some regularity. In either setting he was always warm, with a ready smile. He was always engaged in class, eager to both learn and contribute. There were times when our discussions provoked his sense of injustice. That is when he would advocate powerfully and passionately for those who could not speak for themselves. What a loss for us all. May you find some peace in knowing how much he cared for others and how much we cared for him.



  7. Jane Fulhage on March 4, 2017 at 9:02 am

    Scott always had a smile and a “reach out” personality! I have known him since he was a little guy…..and had a chance to reconnect with him last Fall. I am so glad we did! My heart goes out to Debbie, Chris and Adam. Scott was a gift to everyone he touched.



  8. David,Jane,Elizabeth, and Max Dozier on March 4, 2017 at 9:43 am

    We will always remember the big warm smile and gentle heart of that little boy next door that grew up with our children. Debbie, Chris, Adam ,you are in our hearts this day.



  9. Pam, John, Stacy Massey, Sarah Massey Buran and Aaron Buran on March 4, 2017 at 10:13 am

    Debbie, Scott and Adam, please know how much my family loved Scott. A flood of memories from Swim Team, 4th of July celebrations, and MU tailgates come to mind and remind me of Scott’s beautiful spirit, kind heart, and delightful personality. John, Sarah and Aaron, Stacy and I are so saddened by the news, we will cherish our family memories of him.



  10. Chris Martin on March 4, 2017 at 10:49 am

    I am not sure I have ever, or will ever, meet another person with Scott’s amazing and caring personality. One of the smartest, funniest, sarcastic, and loving people I have ever met. I’ll miss our many hours on the tennis court, most times spent in conversation more than competition. You will be missed.



  11. Richard Feldman on March 4, 2017 at 11:58 am

    My deepest and saddest condolences to Scott’s family, loved ones and friends. I’ve known Scott for several years, but we just started to become friends and get to know each other a few weeks ago. His passing is a great shock to me, and I will be at his memorial tomorrow. There was something different and unique about Scott. I read the above condolences and I understand how, and why, everyone else feels this way about Scott. He had a kind and loving personality that was so easy to see, hear and feel because it was evident in how he communicated with friends and people he was just meeting. It’s not something you can necessarily put into words, but you felt his words, you felt the loving kindness that was the force, the driver, behind how he communicated. I never heard or felt any bitterness or sarcasm or hatred that is so easy for many of us to accumulate throughout our lives and resonate in our approach with others. I felt none of that with Scott. Scott was, Scott is, very special, and I know I will always remember him.



  12. Barb Voss on March 4, 2017 at 12:17 pm

    Debbie- I’m so sorry for your loss of your son. I know you were so proud of him and he will always be in your heart and the heart of the many people who’s lives he touched. Prayers for your entire family.



  13. Carly Voloto on March 4, 2017 at 2:12 pm

    Scott and I completed our MSW’s together and we grew very close in graduate school. Scott and I had a strong connection, trust and understanding of one another. He was a wonderful person with a buoyant laugh and an altruistic heart. Debbie, Scott gave me one of your beautiful hand made dolls and I will treasure it forever. I was blessed to know him. If you would like to contact me, I would love to hear from you. My number is 636 579 6279.



  14. Zach & Nikki Brown on March 4, 2017 at 3:16 pm

    Deepest condolences to Scott’s family. Scott was always a pleasure to be around. He was always upbeat and had something positive to say. Scott you will be missed. Prayers for you and your family.



  15. Meghan and Will McCullah on March 4, 2017 at 3:54 pm

    We are so very sorry to hear of this loss. We will miss our sweet neighbor who always seemed to have a big smile and a helping hand. Please know that we are here for you.



  16. Spencer Engel on March 4, 2017 at 4:23 pm

    Scott and I became friends back in 2007 during our respective sophomore years when we sat next to each other in Spanish class. He was just about the most friendly, outgoing person I ever met in a class at Mizzou and we ended up hanging out often the next three years until graduation and afterward when I would come back into town to visit.

    Scott was not only warm and gregarious to me but also to all my friends, whose names he would remember immediately and forever, a skill that never failed to impress me. I’m very sorry to hear of his loss and send my heartfelt condolences to his family and friends. He will be greatly missed.



  17. Amelia Cottle on March 4, 2017 at 4:28 pm

    Chris and Family – Scott was so gentle and kind to Brian (and all of the attendees) at Adult Day Connection. He reminded Brian that he and Chris had worked together years ago and was quite tickled to make the connection between the two of you. I will always remember this beautiful young man. I am holding all in my heart.



  18. Joan Arthur on March 4, 2017 at 6:30 pm

    Debbie, Chris and Adam,
    I am so sorry for your loss. It’s heart breaking for you all and you are in my prayers,

    Joanie Arthur



  19. Ben Loeb; Rock Bridge H S Tennis Coach on March 4, 2017 at 9:30 pm

    Debbie and Chris
    My deepest condolences to both of you on the loss of a wonderful person. Scott cared so much about other people. Everyone saw that in him. He showed so much interest in what others were doing and in conversing with them. Scott was more than a valuable member of the Rock Bridge Tennis Team when he was in high school. He epitomized what it was like to value a team and all of the people that were a part of it. He carried that true sense of caring for others into adulthood. Occasionally I would see him at Wilson’s. He continued to have a sincere interest in the current team. I want to offer to take both of you out for dinner with some of the old tennis people friends from the past when you are ready.

    I’m going to leave with a quote that I came across when my father died in 2005. “It’s okay to be alive and to go on living and that it honors the person to live with a little bit of their light inside of you.”

    May God be with Scott and with you.



  20. Victoria (Kasprzak) Murphy on March 4, 2017 at 9:43 pm

    Scott was always a pleasure to be around. For the 20+ years that I knew him he always had a smile on his face and nice words to share. He was a genuine guy and will be greatly missed.
    Rest easy sweet friend



  21. Annette & Mike Robbins on March 5, 2017 at 7:06 am

    Whenever I ran into Scott, he was on his bike, smiling and ALWAYS had a smile. He was the best soul, a warm heart, and a loving presence. Debbie and Scott, I always thought, wow, what a great guy you have raised, so so kind. He had a way of making you feel welcome in this world, loved, exactly what God has asked us to do. And I do believe he is an example for us all to spread kindness and love.
    I knew Scott since he was a small guy and always, always there was love from him. Debbie and Chris, you will be in our prayers and thoughts for God to give you courage, and support. And Debbie this is a big hug from me.



  22. Claudia Kressig on March 5, 2017 at 12:40 pm

    Our sympathies to you Debbie, Chris and Adam. Ryan and I were just talking about Scott on Friday. I told him one of my fond memories of Ryan’s childhood was of Scott being at the house on Teakwood and they were resting and reading books together. One of the rare times boys DID that:)! I didn’t see the Facebook post until last night and had no idea of the struggle with leukemia. Scott’s picture shines forth that bright spirit I remember. He was truly a gift and a pleasure to be around. His warmth, compassion, sweetness…It doesn’t surprise me at all that he went into Social Work as a profession. We have such great memories of the Hawf family all around.
    You will be in our prayers as you grieve. Sending a big hug.



  23. Eric Shufelberger on March 5, 2017 at 1:58 pm

    We both had older brothers who were in the same class at ccs. We were acquaintances at best but everytime I randomly ran into scott we always had a nice conversation. Whether it be around town or on the mkt trail. This was shocking news.

    Best wishes to the famiily.



  24. Bryan and Jane Piester, Drew Piester, and Claire Piester Oertli on March 5, 2017 at 6:47 pm

    Our memories of the Shepard neighborhood will always include Scott’s playful soul. He was a dear friend to our children, and we all have been treasuring the memories of those times. I recently saw Scott on campus as he was waiting to volunteer at the Adult Day Care Center. We had a wonderful conversation, and he was so happy. It was such a gift to reconnect with him, and to witness his passion for the social work profession. He was a very special young man and one that we will never forget. We are holding your family close to our heart during this very difficult time.



  25. Karen Smith on March 5, 2017 at 6:48 pm

    Debbie, Chris and Adam, We were so saddened to hear about Scott. He was such a wonderful young man-always smiling! We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.

    Pat & Karen Smith and family



  26. Karin Rooney on March 5, 2017 at 9:59 pm

    My memories of Scott are back when he was a fourth grader at CCS. He was thoughtful and kind to all his classmates. His smile brightened my day. I am not surprised he went into Social Work and had the compassion and patience to work with the elderly. I will always remember him. My thoughts and prayers are with his family.



  27. Aimee' House on March 5, 2017 at 11:46 pm

    Scott, when I think of our time together at ADC, I will always smile. You were always so funny and so caring about the needs of others. Social work was a great fit for you! You have left us all too soon. Rest In Peace.
    My thoughts and prayers are with the family.



  28. Jessica on March 6, 2017 at 4:33 am

    My condolences to your family at this time of grieving and sadness as a life was taken from you too soon. Your son was an amazing young man who I got to know through my place of work as he was an avid regular customer of mine who became a good friend. Scott was always a delight to see and be around and very inspiring and happy . I’m so sorry that he has gone so soon and only wish that he rest in peace and that prayers are kept high for you and yours in such a time.



  29. Gayou Family on March 6, 2017 at 8:58 am

    Our deepest and most sincere condolences to Debbie, Chris, Adam, and family on your loss. Scott was one of the most caring, thoughtful, sincere, and compassionate human beings that we have had the honor and privilege of knowing. He made the world a better place during his time here and we will miss him always. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.



  30. Janice Mericle on March 6, 2017 at 10:43 am

    My deepest sympathies to Scott’s family. Your son touched many lives around him including my own. Scott was funny, caring and thoughtful; every time we visited he would ask how my own son was doing and offer encouragement. I wish him peace and I wish your family comfort and love. I will miss you, Scott!



  31. Eileen King on March 6, 2017 at 2:27 pm

    I want to express my deepest sympathies to Scott’s family. I had the privilege of working with Scott at his internship in Social Work at UH. Scott was always eager to learn and was a kind, caring and gentle soul with a heart for helping others. R.I.P., Scott.



  32. Katy Kovar on March 6, 2017 at 3:04 pm

    Debbie, I never met Scott but I feel like I did as we talked about him so many times when you picked up payroll. I know you will miss him. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers



  33. Donna Hrdina on March 6, 2017 at 5:27 pm

    Debbie,

    The Scott I remember was a kind, and peaceful young boy that rode with us to Countryside after school at CCS. What a beautiful soul you raised. God’s peace to you and your family.



  34. Cheryl Currie RN on March 7, 2017 at 9:26 pm

    My condolences to Scott’s family. I knew Scott briefly as he was completing his internship at U.H. he was a bright, enthusiastic and caring young man. Wishing peace for your family.



  35. Peter and Paula Schmitz on March 10, 2017 at 6:58 pm

    We were saddened to hear of Scott’s death. We hold you in our thoughts and prayers and pray God will give you comfort and peace. Since we’ve moved to Charlotte, we haven’t been able to keep up with your family, but we were so pleased to see all Scott’s accomplishments. You must be so proud of him. Please know that we share your sorrow. We miss you and all our old neighbors in the Hulen Lake area.

    Peter and Paula Schmitz



  36. Kutz Family on March 14, 2017 at 10:49 am

    Chris, Debbie and Adam. Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this most sorrowful time. Our memories of Scott are of a friendly, respectful and kind-hearted, fun and energetic young man. We are so sorry for the loss of your wonderful son.



  37. Josh Kennedy on March 15, 2017 at 10:02 pm

    I played soccer with Scott in the Columbia recreational soccer league when I was in middle school. He and I were the two goalies on the team and spent a lot of time together. Scott was the best goalie I knew and I learned a lot from him. I was so impressed when I found out that he was also an amazing tennis player. What I loved most was riding in the car with him and his Mom to and from practice. He would regularly go straight from soccer practice to tennis practice! He was a great guy and I looked up to him. He will always be in my heart. RIP Scott.



  38. Van & Caryl Darkow, Andrew, Erik, Courtney & Blake on March 21, 2017 at 4:10 pm

    Debbie, we were so saddened to hear of Scott’s death. Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you. Scott was an amazing young man!! Although we hadn’t seen him in years, we have wonderful memories of him, especially at the tennis courts. I’ll never forget what a strong and determined young man he was the one summer during Show Me Games. Knowing he wasn’t feeling well, he battled through those hot matches with every ounce of strength and competitiveness that he had. You raised a wonderful son! We are so sorry for your loss!



  39. Nick z on April 22, 2017 at 1:07 pm

    I went to school with Scott he was one of the brightest and most positive people I’ve ever met his smile was one of my favorite things of every day I went to school i am blessed to have even been in his life for just a few years my heartfelt condolences to his family and i will all ways have his positivity around me God bless his family and everyone who knew him .



  40. The Gordons: Jeff and Leigh Anne, Jennifer on May 9, 2017 at 12:11 am

    Our hearts go out to you. The blessing that is Scott will be a part of our lives as well as the generosity you extended to our family. We offer our condolences, hope for peace and believe in love.



  41. Austin McKain on December 16, 2022 at 10:06 am

    Us at the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society are thinking of Scott today.



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